Viral video explains what's so wrong with millennials

WERE you born after 1983?

Congratulations, you're a millennial. Now here's a quick loving guide to everything that's wrong with you.

An Inside Quest interview with renowned author and motivational speaker Simon Sinek has gone viral thanks to his insights on Gen Y.

In the 15-minute segment, he covers everything from social media to flawed parenting in summarising the newer generation's problems.

"Apparently millennials are tough to manage and they're accused of being entitled and narcissistic and self-interested, unfocused and lazy," he says.

"But entitled is the big one. Because they confound leaders so much, what's happening is leaders are asking the millennials, 'What do you want?' and millennials are saying, 'We want to work in a place with purpose'. Love that!

"'We want to make an impact' - whatever that means. We want free food and beanbags. Somebody articulates some sort of purpose, there's lots of free food and beanbags and yet for some reason they're still not happy. That's because there's a missing piece."

Mr Sinek goes on to outline four main reasons for Gen Y's unhappiness: poor parenting, social media, impatience and environment.

Why do millennials seem to struggle so much in the real world?
Why do millennials seem to struggle so much in the real world?

On poor parenting, he says that "too many" young people were brought up being told they were special and could do anything they wanted to.

"Some of them got into Honours Classes not because they deserved it but because their parents complained. Some of them got A's, not because they earned them, but because the teachers didn't want to deal with the parents. Some kids got participation medals for coming in last.

"The science we know is pretty clear - it devalues the medal and reward for those who actually work hard and it actually makes the person who comes in last feel embarrassed because they know they didn't deserve it. So it actually makes them feel worse."

He added: "They're thrust in the real world and in an instant they find out they're not special, their mums can't get them a promotion, that you get nothing for coming in last and by the way you can't just have it because you want it. In an instant their entire self-image is shattered. So you have an entire generation that is growing up with lower self-esteem than previous generations."

Sinek compares Gen Y’s addiction to technology to alcoholism.
Sinek compares Gen Y’s addiction to technology to alcoholism. David Stuart

Mr Sinek compares our addiction to technology to alcoholism, noting that engaging with technology triggers dopamine, the feel-good receptors in the brain, just as booze, gambling or eating food does.

He explains that - thanks to platforms like Facebook and Instagram - young people are increasingly used to "filtering" their lives and presenting only their best "self" at the expense of reality.

Therefore, when they actually enter the real world, they're dealt a sharp shock when they realise you can't exactly chuck a Valencia filter on your career.

"The reality is there's very little toughness and most people don't have it figured out," he says. "So when the more senior people say, 'What shall we do?", They sound like, 'This is what you gotta do' and they have no clue!"

Platforms like Instagram have contributed to Gen Y’s unrealistic view of the world, Sinek says.
Platforms like Instagram have contributed to Gen Y’s unrealistic view of the world, Sinek says. David Stuart

Likewise, he points out that technology has created a generation that needs instant gratification. They might be in a job for eight months and then question why they're not making an "impact".

"Too many kids don't know how to form deep, meaningful relationships…they have fun with their friends but they also know that their friends will cancel on them if something better comes along. Deep meaningful relationships are not there because they never practised the skillset and worse they don't have the coping mechanisms to deal with stress."

He says this even extends to sex: "You want to go on a date. You don't even have to learn how to be like, 'Hey…'

You don't have to be the uncomfortable one who says 'Yes' when you mean 'No' and 'No' when you mean 'Yes.' Swipe right. Bang! I'm a stud!…everything you want you can have instantaneously, everything you want - instant gratification.

"Except job satisfaction and strength of relationships. There ain't no app for that. There is slow, meandering, uncomfortable, messy processes."

So, what's the big solution? Mr Sinek calls for young people to lower their smartphone usage and take a more long-term view on life.

Don't keep your phone on your desk in a meeting, face-up or face-down. Charge it in your living room, not by your bed while you sleep at night. Engage with the people around you, don't sit there texting your friends.

The alternative, he says, is pretty damn bleak.

"The best case scenario is you'll have an entire population growing up and going through life and just never really finding joy. They'll never really find deep fulfilment in work or life."

He does at least acknowledge it's not their fault.

"They blame themselves... but it's not them. It's the total lack of good leadership in our world today that is making them feel the way they do."

The video has fast gone viral, with more than three million views on Youtube, and more than a million Facebook shares.

Watch it below.

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