The difference between friends and fakes

WHAT is a true friend?

Is it someone we can tell everything to?

Maybe it is someone who looks out for us, who cares, remembers important dates and shares their most intimate encounters?

Is that too stereotypical, or too many thoughts floating about?

As adults with good morals, we give so much of ourselves and our time to some people who are too blind to see the things we do and maybe they even take them for granted.

It's enough to many people, and me, feel underappreciated and uncertain of the friendship.

When do we draw the line? Often, the friends who take us for granted are probably wrapped up in their self-centred lives and are probably too selfish to notice.

And if people do such things, why do we consider them our friends in the first place?

It seems these realisations develop over time, when something new or different happens in the daily routine and your friend reacts in a negative way that bounces to you - and you get hit straight in the face with a massive shock as you discover the inner side of that person.

Would that be the time to let them go and find a new crowd?

Yes, I think so.

Why would you want to be dragged down and not happy?

It's about you and you're the main focus and what makes you happy. The rest just falls into place.

And when friends come and go, it can seem like an endlessly repetitive cycle.

Why does this always happen to us? The repetitive cycle can lead us to think we're doing something wrong.

When you do find a rare friend or friends who are keepers, hold onto them tight and let them know.

And balance the feelings so it's a two-way street, not just a one way.

The keepers are the ones that may always not be there but are there at the times you most need them.

They are the ones who comfort you in ways no one else could.

The ones who make you happy in the most simplest forms.

The ones who surprise you and share their love with you unconditionally for the rest of your life.

 

Nadz is a 20-something Queensland girl who blogs about life, love, friendship and fluffy animals. 



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