Police and protection support unit at the scene of a man with a firearm on Dalley Street in Lismore. Photo Marc Stapelberg / The Northern Star
Police and protection support unit at the scene of a man with a firearm on Dalley Street in Lismore. Photo Marc Stapelberg / The Northern Star Marc Stapelberg

LETTER: A mother shares her heartbreak for siege victim’s family

I WRITE to you with a heavy heart in reference to (the Lismore) siege, where a young man has taken his own life.

Oh how I can relate.

I am caring mother of a son that is badly affected by ICE.

He is up and then he is down.

The demons in his head have tormented him to the point that he thinks everyone that cares or is trying to help him are his enemies and trying to steal what he has not hocked.

I have been pleading for help from all the listed phone numbers that are advertised to be called for advice and to supposedly help in a crisis. Ppfftt  what a waste of time. 

My personal experience when I called Lifeline after listening to my drug affected son having a melt down and wanting to end it all.

For 40 minutes I listened to dreadful, not calming, music and then when I did get to talk to a counsellor and told her what was happening, she had the ignorance to say to me "and how does that make you feel?" end quote.

I wanted knowledge of where to go and who to turn to for advice to help my poor demented son, to no avail.

I have been pleading for help from the departments trained to do this for over three years. 

I can only feel empathy for the young man's parents and family if they have been put through the ringer in the same way I have been to date. 

Mental Health is completely aware of my son's psychotic behaviour. 

I had to call 000 for help a week ago after my son had told me he just knifed and let a neighbour bleed out so he could take his car to escape.

It was all a fantasy thank goodness.

He is a danger to himself and the community at large.

There is nowhere I can turn to and get him into rehab or away from the community and out of harm's way.

During his psychotic episodes, and there are many, when he is in this state of mind he has alienated so many people to the point he is not safe.

He just wants someone to kill him because he not been able to do it to himself.

My son has said he wants the police to shoot him because he no longer wants to be in this world and has not got the guts to take his own life.

What a dreadful thing to say to a parent. I hate ICE. 

This same sort of harrowing scenario has been happening to many families all over Australia for such a long time.

Christine Baker

Tabulam



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