Drug addiction destroyed a Toowoomba family
TOOWOOMBA woman Kylie still has nightmares about the abuse she endured at the hands of her drug addicted ex-boyfriend 13 years ago.
The mother-of-three, who does not want to be identified, came forward with her story after The Chronicle posted an anonymous letter a woman wrote to her drug addicted husband.
The letter starts out with the woman describing herself as a broken person.
She writes, "I am tired of making excuses and pretending everything is fine. I am tired of your reactions, your moods, your erupting anger."
The woman goes on to explain how her husband's drug addiction destroyed their family.
When Kylie read the letter, she related to it straight away
Kylie lived a nightmarish life for five years before she had the courage to walk away from her boyfriend.
For the first year of their relationship, she only saw glimpses of the tyrant he would become.
It wasn't until she fell pregnant with their first child that the drug addiction took over their lives.
She said her boyfriend would become abusive when he couldn't get his drug fix.
"Every single spare cent we had went towards his drug addiction. He'd buy marijuana, speed, ice and cocaine," Kylie said.
"That is when the abuse really started.
"He would get high in our carport and when he would come inside he would give me this evil look and I knew I was in trouble.
"He would beat me, strangle me, hold knives up to my throat and throw me into walls.
"Sometimes he would take me out into the bush to beat me so no one could hear me scream.
"I was always so terrified," she said.
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Over the years, Kylie tried to seek help from his family.
"I wasn't really in contact with my family so I tried to tell his family and friends," Kylie said.
"He was so charming to everyone else so no one believed me when I told them what he was like. I felt trapped," she said.
Kylie's opportunity to escape the abuse came a few days after the neighbours called the police because they heard Kylie screaming.
"The police had been keeping a watch on my property and, when my boyfriend left me alone, they approached the house and told me they could keep me safe in a women's shelter," Kylie said.
"I didn't even know places like that existed.
"I left with my daughters and the clothes on our backs.
"I didn't care about anything else. I just wanted to be safe," she said.
Kylie wants other women in her situation to know that it is possible to leave.
"I know leaving is hard, especially if someone's partner is keeping watch on their every move, but it is possible," Kylie said.
"When I was with my ex-boyfriend I wasn't myself. I was something that belonged to him.
"I was a broken person.
"Walking away was the best thing I ever did," she said.
What you had to say about "A letter to my drug addicted husband"
- Christine Justice: Brave woman. I hope you get the life you deserve.
- Ann Witney: Leave him and get out of that atmosphere. Don't be a crutch for him; he will take everything from you.
- Vicki Harber: So sad I feel for her and the children