OPINION: All roads need not lead to sex
SOMETIMES the best part of sex isn't the sex at all…it's often the make-out session preceding it.
There are many sexual options that don't include actually having sex itself.
And these options can be so good, that everybody should add more penetration-free erotic play into their sexual repertoire.
It is a common, but slowly changing misconception that "proper" sex requires intercourse - this simply isn't true.
As sexual beings, we have a huge range of satisfying stimulation and sexual play to choose, without always resorting to penetration to finish things off.
Most of us are well-versed in the act of sexual intercourse because it is simple and easy, and as result, it saves time and effort.
However, good sex takes both time and effort, so don't scrimp on your sex life.
Take your time and the rewards shall be yours, because delicious sex comes in many shapes and forms, and the joy is in discovering those ways.
Challenge yourself by creating a sensual environment where both of you can try new things and practise other erotic activities.
Keep in mind that females prefer lots of foreplay, especially in their imaginations, hence loads of us read erotic novels - it stimulates our brains imagination.
But if your "story" heads straight for intercourse, just the same as in real life - ie; if you know what's on the next page, (so to speak), there's nothing new, unexpected, or most valuably for women, not much happening to awaken that mind of ours that desperately wants, and needs what happens beforehand to effectively switch it on.
So you probably won't get the desired result anyway - there doesn't have to be an "ending" or an orgasm for either of you.
In fact, leaving a partner "wanting more" is a wonderful way to get that sagging libido back into action.
Touching each other's body releases mood-enhancing endorphins, and no matter what happens afterward, the body feels good simply for having been nourished from the outside in, with the bonus of learning more about our partner.
That's why a sensual massage is so wonderful. I do suggest though, that you don't expect a massage in return; it's usually the last thing your partner will feel like doing after receiving one, so take turns at different times if a massage is on the menu.
This is just one example, and there are loads we could go into, but I'm sure you get my drift - sex (intercourse) shouldn't always be the final destination, it's the journey you are both on.
There are so many fun ways to experience eroticism. Take a break from the norm, using your imagination sparks more ideas and fun, and once you start playing around, you will find that a whole range of other activities are just as much fun as intercourse.
Open your mind and body, and you shall reap the rewards of a healthy, fun and open-minded sex life.